In this day and age, when sex has been degraded to “adult” humor and virginity is regarded by some as cheap merchandise, this article teaches why sex is sacred to God and virginity is a glory to His Kingdom.The power of this revelation is gripping the hearts of men and women and raising up a new generation which is bringing back to the Church, and to the world, what a previous generation threw away.Much of the Church has left the teaching about sex to a godless society that knows nothing about God’s covenants. When the Church does talk about sex, so often we simply say, “Don’t do it,” concerning premarital and promiscuous sex. Attempts are made to point out the harm in such kinds of sex.The Church often misses entirely the real message and fundamental truth of the sacredness of the marriage covenant and sex itself. God creates everything good.

Man corrupts and contaminates it by his sinful, selfish nature. Sex was made for loving and giving, but when contaminated by man, it becomes an object of lusting and getting.I submit to you that God made sex good.Understanding this will enable you to attain to a higher degree of holiness and rise to a new level of faith. Therefore, it is imperative that you read these carefully.


In Deuteronomy 22, God tells His people specifically what to do about a man and woman who join together in marriage. Starting with the thirteenth verse we read:

“If any man takes a wife, and goes in to her, and then scorns her,

“And charges her with shameful things and gives her an evil reputation, and says, I took this woman, and when I came to her, I did not find in her the tokens of a virgin,

“Then the father of the young woman, and her mother, shall get and bring out the tokens of her virginity to the elders of the city in the gate;

“And her father shall say to the elders, I gave my daughter to this man as wife, and he hates and spurns her,

“And, lo, he has made shameful charges against her, saying, I found not in your daughter the evidences of her virginity. And they shall spread the garment before the elders of the city,

“And the elders of that city shall take the man and rebuke and whip him;

“And they shall fine him 100 shekels of silver, and give them to the father of the young woman, because he has brought an evil name upon a virgin of Israel; and she shall be his wife; he may not divorce her all his days.

“But if it is true that the evidences of virginity were not found in the young woman,

“Then they shall bring her to the door of her father’s house, and the men of her city shall stone her to death; because she has wrought [criminal] folly in Israel, by playing the harlot in her father’s house. So you shall put away the evil from among you.”1

What you just read may not be completely clear to you. When the young men and women of Israel were married, they were both supposed to be virgins. God expected both to be virgins.

There is an evidence of a woman’s virginity, but there isn’t of a man’s. When a woman’s hymen is penetrated the first time, it generally causes the shedding of blood which in turn causes the stains that become the “tokens of virginity.”

The evidence of virginity here in the Old Testament was incumbent upon the woman, but it doesn’t mean that God required virginity of the woman while the man was to be promiscuous or “experienced.” God has no double standards.

At the time of the wedding, the father and mother of the bride would give the couple bedclothes for them to use on their first night. They were brand-new bedclothes given for the use of the couple during their first intimate sexual relationship together.

If after the wedding night, the man, for whatever reason, decided he didn’t want to stay married to the woman, the only way he could get an annulment of the marriage was to accuse her of defrauding him about her virginity.

This might sound strange unless you are familiar with law and realize that this Old Testament statute is the basis of our modern laws that state that marriage can be annulled if one of the parties defrauded the other at the time of marriage. This is exactly what God is talking about here.

When the man and woman were married, if, in order to be excused from the marriage, the man said that the wife was not a virgin, then the father and mother of the bride would bring the bedclothes out and spread them before the elders of the city. If there were bloodstains, or “tokens of virginity,” on the bedclothes, then the man was accused of slander. He was fined 100 shekels of silver which he had to pay to the bride’s family, was beaten, and was required to keep his wife and care for her for life with no opportunity for divorce.

Now, I am getting to another point here, but let me say something parenthetically that may help you. There are men these days who go around bragging about how they have had some sort of sexual relations with a girl, even when it is not true. That is the slander that God is talking about here which He so vehemently abhors. It is literally the slander of a woman’s reputation, and it still angers God. God hasn’t changed.

Even if the woman is not a virgin, that gossip and slander will keep a man from being “maximized” in his manhood and from becoming all that God intends for him to be. It’s slander, murmuring, backbiting, whatever you want to call it, and God will not stand for it.

By the very seed that such a man sows with his mouth, he will reap the retribution. For by his words he will live and die. “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.”2

Now, the other part of the judgment was that, if indeed the woman was not a virgin and there were no “tokens of virginity” on the bedclothes, then the man could be granted an annulment. But the woman would be taken out and stoned to death for having lost her virginity while still “in her father’s house.”3

Some people feel that this is a harsh injustice on God’s part. But God said, “So you shall put away the evil from among you.”4 The Old Testament is part of the old covenant, yes, butlook what Acts says in the New Testament,

“…and walking in the fear of the Lord, and in the comfort of the Holy Ghost, (they) were multiplied.”5 (Italic words added.)

The truth is that much of the Church today has learned to walk in the comfort of the Holy Ghost but without the fear of the Lord. In the fear of the Lord is the restraint from doing evil.6 But if a person only walks in the comfort of the Holy Ghost and not in the fear of the Lord, then there is no restraint from doing evil, and without that restraint lasciviousness (or “loosed-from-restraint” living) becomes the rule.

God ordained punishment in order to bring a measure of the fear of the Lord to His people.7That is the reason for the severity of His punishment against those who took their virginity lightly.

Today in many of the youth groups in churches, there are young people who are content to walk in the comfort of the Holy Ghost and go to church regularly, but in their private lives they don’t have the fear of the Lord and are not restrained in their desires to do evil.

Recently a young man told me about a problem he was having with his girlfriend, but his account just didn’t sit right with me.

“It sounds to me like you’ve had sex with this young lady,” I said. He insisted that he hadn’t.

As he continued to give me sketchy details, I became distressed with him because he was giving me symptoms of a problem between them that I recognized usually involved sex. Finally I pinned him down and said, “I want to ask you a question, and I want you to look at me. Did you have sex with her?”

“She’s still a virgin,” he replied.

“That tells me nothing,” I said. “Did you have sex with her?”

“Yes, we had oral sex, but she’s still a virgin.”

There he stood, too ashamed to tell me the truth because he knew in his heart that it was wrong, yet trying to insist in word and deed that it wasn’t sex! How ungodly! How much of the fear of the Lord was operating in his life?

Sex was made for loving and giving, not for lusting and getting. This young man was “lusting” his girlfriend, not loving her. He needed to love her as God loves her, and prepare himself to be a husband by learning to love a wife scripturally the way that Christ loved the church.8

The truth is that private renunciation of sin leads to public denunciation of sin. When men are publicly denouncing sin, the fear of the Lord can come into the world. But it is up to those in the Church to bring a measure of the fear of the Lord into the world.


This is serious to God, and yet we live in a society in which a young man wants to get rid of his virginity at the very earliest of ages to show that he’s a “man.” Keeping it means that he’s a “wimp.” A young woman wants to get rid of her virginity in order to gain acceptance. If she keeps it, she’s considered a “prude.”

But God has established something higher than the lascivious behavior of this world on which you can base your life and through which you can experience this great blessing.

God has given you a glory in the virginity which is yours from birth. It is the one thing that you possess that is yours to give as your greatest gift to the person you love, with whom you will spend a lifetime, with whom you will become “one.”

Being a virgin doesn’t make you an “oddball” or a “weirdo”! Being a virgin makes you the person God created you to be so that in your life you can have a holy covenant relationship with someone He brings to you. God has given you a blood covenant. It’s His divine provision given out of love for man, and in order for man and woman to become truly “one.” It’s something to rejoice about, not something to grumble about or feel inferior because of! Virginity is a glory!

This is what God has done for us through the creation of a virginal state in man:

When a man and a woman get married as virgins and have their first intimate experience, and her hymen is broken, it causes the shedding of blood which then flows over his part. To God it is a sign that they have entered into a sacred relationship with a blood covenant which is symbolic of entering into a sacred covenant relationship with God in Christ by the shedding of His blood.

The shedding of blood is the symbol of the covenant a husband and wife have entered into together, first in heart, then in body. It’s an external evidence of an internal work.

When a man and woman make their commitment to one another before God, and they declare their desire to become “one flesh,”1 as God intended for them, then God has provided for them an actual blood covenant whereby they can seal their commitment.

Awesome! Joyous! Wonderful!

To those who are married, the sexual part of their relationship takes on an entirely new dimension when they understand the perfection of what God has done between them.

To those who are not yet married, it gives an entirely new outlook on the future that God has prepared for them.

Think of it. On your wedding night, you take your bride into your arms in the hotel room. She’s dressed in her beautiful white peignoir, you’re in your new silk pajamas. You have toasted each other with your sparkling grape juice, and now you look into her eyes and say, “Darling, you are God’s gift to me. I love you. I want to give you the glory of my manhood. I want to enter into a sacred covenant relationship with you ‘until death do us part.'”

What a way to start a marriage! What a way to show true manhood! What a way for a woman to start a relationship with a man! Contrast that to the woman who marries “Mr. Macho” who has tried to take the virginity from as many women as possible, or “Mr. Cool” who married her because he was tired of buying so many dinners to get something that marriage would give him continuously for free.

What a cheap kind of attitude toward marriage!

Sex is no reason to get married.

Getting married just to have sex is one of the poorest reasons in the world. It’s just like the woman who marries someone just to get away from her father, only to find that she has jumped from the frying pan into the fire.

There’s only one reason to get married, and that is to fulfill the covenant relationship God has given to man through His great love for man, and by doing so, to bring honorand glory to God.


INTERNAL WORK: Circumcised Heart (Faith in God)

EXTERNAL WORK: Circumcised Flesh

Result: Righteousness of entering a blood covenant, bringing glory to God.




INTERNAL WORK: Acceptance of redemption through shed blood

EXTERNAL WORK: Water Baptism

Result: Righteousness of entering a blood covenant, bringing glory to God.



INTERNAL WORK: Commitment, Unity, Love


Result: Righteousness of entering a blood covenant, bringing glory to God.


PS: Real men and women wait 🙂





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