Originally posted on familybliss.nomthiodukoya.org
By Pastor Nomthi Odukoya
‘…Our father is old and there is no man on the earth to come in to us, as is the custom of all the earth.’ Genesis 19:31′ (NKJV)
There is an ideology that the pool of eligible bachelors shrinks with age. This line of thinking stresses that there is a shortage of single men in relation to single women, thereby putting ladies under undue pressure.
This supposed scarcity of eligible men/women after a certain age is a hoax. God always has a plan and a remnant. If you are above 30 years of age and single, you may begin to wonder if there is something wrong with you or if God has forgotten you. Sometimes, friends and family may question your single status. The good news is, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, and God has not forgotten you. According to Isaiah 49:16 God says, ‘I have inscribed you on the palms of my hands; your walls are continually before me.’ In other words, God constantly remembers and cares for his children. Be assured that God has not forgotten you and He has a plan for you.
This erroneous belief is not new – in fact the Bible shows us that this fear has pervaded the hearts of women from time immemorial.
In Genesis 19, the daughters of Lot committed incest with their father because they believed that there were no eligible bachelors to marry them after they left Sodom. They forgot to look to the Almighty God that brought them out of Sodom and Gomorrah for marital supply. God is concerned about every area of our lives including who and when we marry. In Genesis 24:12-15, Abraham’s servant prayed for a wife for Isaac and God brought Rebekah; He can do the same for you!
The daughters of Lot were fearful they would not find a spouse, which caused them (in their desperation) to act sinfully. We see this often nowadays, wherein women date married men and sometimes even marry them, thereby going against the Scriptures of putting asunder what God has joined together. Isaiah 34 says that ‘not one will lack her mate’, this means that God has plans to give you your own husband/wife – not another person’s.
Another modern issue sprung from this fear of spinsterhood, which I feel is worthy of mention, is the increasing trend of single parenting by choice. Ladies are increasingly settling for having a child out of wedlock to either avoid the commitment of marriage, concerned about their biological clocks, or the notion that men are scarce. Some men will also rather have “baby mamas” than finding their missing rib thus fulfilling scriptures.
It’s time to drop these delusions and look to Jehovah for an eligible partner. While you wait, look to Him to help you as a person, so that when God brings your mate, you are a worthy partner to him/her.