Aberrations in Marriage


Anytime we violate God’s principles, there’s always a price to pay. Abberations from God’s principles didn’t commence today, but during the fall of man. And what was the price? They were not only cursed, they also died spiritually. Even father Abraham, the father of faith deviated from God’s principles; he slept with Sarah’s maid, Hagar. And the byproduct of this deviation was Ishmael, the progenitor of the Muslims, the people terrorizing the Christians today. And since Ishmael came from Abraham’s loins, God had to bless him.

And as for Ishmael, I have heard you: I will surely bless him; I will make him fruitful and will greatly increase his numbers. He will be the father of twelve rulers, and I will make him into a great nation. Genesis 17:20

What about David, the man after God’s own heart? David also deviated from God’s principles. He slept with Bathsheba and had to pay a great price. The child from the act died, and God said the sword will never depart from David’s household.
Now therefore, the sword shall never depart from your house, because you have despised Me and have taken the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be your wife.’ 2 Samuel 12:10

This takes us to Amnon, the son of David, who raped his sister, Tamar through deceit.

12 “No,” she said. “Don’t force me to do such a degrading thing! That’s awful! 13 How could I ever hold up my head in public again? And you—you would be completely disgraced in Israel. Please, speak to the king, and I’m sure that he will give me to you.” 14 But he would not listen to her; and since he was stronger than she was, he overpowered her and raped her. 2 Samuel 13:12-13

And of course, he paid the price with his life, because Absalom, his brother, killed him for that treacherous act. Even Absalom too was killed by the sword. Of a truth, the sword never departed from David’s household.
David thought he could just sleep with Bathsheba and clean his mouth, as if nothing happened (sharp guy) Hehehe. But it wasn’t so; He had to pay a heavy price. No two ways about it.

Premarital sex, extramarital affairs, homosexuality, bisexuality, etc are all aberrations of God’s principles; they scatter his order. Therefore, the perpetrators of any of these acts must pay a heavy price. If you ask for forgiveness, you will definitely be forgiven, but you must still pay the price. For instance, someone contacts HIV/aids from engaging in sex outside of marriage. If he asks for forgiveness, God will forgive him, but he will still have to face the repercussions of having HIV/aids. The HIV/aids will go nowhere. To confirm this, you can ask king David. When king David had an affair with Bathsheba, he fasted and cried for the child not to die, and also begged God for forgiveness. God forgave him, but the child still died.

When two people engage in premarital sex they become one even before going to the altar.

1 Corinthians 6:16
16 What? Know ye not that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? “For two,” saith He, “shall be one flesh.”

IF they get married, The institution would be laid on a wrong foundation, and many years down the line, or even a year after, they get to pay for it. It takes only the grace of God, to wash the slates clean and lay a solid foundation.

I was watching a show one day, and I heard one of the presenters ask another, “what is your body count?” Meaning, how many people have you slept with? He said, for guys if your body count is up to a certain number, it’s like a badge of honour, while for the ladies, it is like you are a hoe or something. So erroneous! That is why we have problems today. People only see the physical; just want to have pleasure right away, failing to remember that there is a price to pay. Your soul gets tied with that partner. And it’s difficult to lead a normal life, as that person is a part of you now. Whether he/she thinks that it’s a batch of honour or whatever, it doesn’t change the fact that he/she is deviating from God’s order, and the price must be paid.

When two virgins get married, everything is new, they lay a solid foundation. But when one has a Phd In that area, and the other is a jambite, just entering the institution, there will be commotion. If you think you can just have sex and run away, Hehehe, it’s a lie from the pit of hell, because you MUST pay the price even if you get married to that same person (Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. Galatians 6:7). Nevertheless, all hope isn’t lost. God’s grace is available to wash your slates clean. Grace is only available to the redeemed of the Lord. So, if you are not born again, there is no way you can be committed to God, your relationship or your marriage. You need to give your life to Christ. You do this by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus your Lord and Saviour. Are you set for it? Why not say this prayer of faith from your heart: Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Now I know I am born again!Let’s do it’s God’s way (having sex with your partner alone in marriage) as it pays to do it right.
Pastor Shola Adesoye


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