It’s throwback time again! Sylvia goes to sit at her usual spot in her backyard. She carries along her regular companion, as she loves to nibble on it whenever she wants to reminisce over her life.
Today, Sylvia reminisces over her failed marriage. She wonders, “what went wrong along the way? ” As she goes down memory lane, she unveils a chapter of her life where she failed to arm herself with all the arsenal of knowledge that were a requisite to making her marriage race a success. . She thought like the average person would think, that marriage works by default. It needed no school, no preparation, it just happens. You only need to meet the right person, walk down the aisle and nothing more. Now she understands in a hard way, the hard truth that it’s not enough meeting the right person, you need enough preparation for that race to be a success.
Then she proceeds briskly to another chapter of her life, where she was a high school runner. She remembers that before being selected as one of the qualified runners to represent her school in a competition with another, she must have been prepared. It was not enough telling her coach that she wanted to run or felt like running. Her coach had to first test her to see how ready she was, before he selected her as one of the runners. Because in a race you don’t learn how to run while in it, you learn before hand. Therefore, the key to an excellent race is preparation or readiness.
Afterwards, she thinks about what happens to a warrior who goes to the war front unprepared. Of course, he’ll be killed.
The Typical race has a coach, without which, the runner would have no clear direction. For we the children of God, Jesus is our coach. With his help, success in any race of life is inevitable. He is the author of marriage. And he knows the dynamics of it. He’ll teach you the necessary ingredients for running each and every race of life
“Looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. For consider Him who endured such hostility from sinners against Himself, lest you become weary and discouraged in your souls” (Heb. 12:2-3).
Our coach, Our Lord Jesus, said:
“But don’t begin until you count the cost. For who would begin construction of a building without first calculating the cost to see if there is enough money to finish it? 29 Otherwise, you might complete only the foundation before running out of money, and then everyone would laugh at you. 30 They would say, ‘There’s the person who started that building and couldn’t afford to finish it
Before saying ” I do”, count the cost first. Sit down and do a thorough check to see whether you are prepared enough to go into this race or not; to see if you have what it takes to run the race of marriage successfully. Because if you run unprepared, without doing a thorough check, you will run out of that marriage .
Then he said again
31 “Or what king would go to war against another king without first sitting down with his counselors to discuss whether his army of 10,000 could defeat the 20,000 soldiers marching against him? 32 And if he can’t, he will send a delegation to discuss terms of peace while the enemy is still far away.
If a king realizes that he doesn’t have enough soldiers to wage war against the other party, he will have to talk the other party into peace. Otherwise, he will be defeated.
It’s a very clear concept. Get prepared first before venturing into marriage, so you don’t fail in the end.
How do you get prepared? If you have an exam to write in a month time, you start preparation now (studying your books), so you’d pass the exam. Same goes for marriage. We have so many books out there on marriage. Some are trash while others are reliable. The most reliable is the word of God. It shows you the original plan of God for marriage before the fall of man. It shows you how to treat your spouse etc. There are other godly books too that teach you God’s principles. Even having a mentor is advisable. If you are already in marriage, Remember to carry your coach along. Let him guide you in this race. You can’t run it on your own and succeed. You need the spirit of God, your coach (john 14:26)
6Then he said to me, “This is the word of the LORD to Zerubbabel saying, ‘Not by might nor by power, but by My Spirit,’ says the LORD of hosts
Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize.
In a race, only the most prepared wins the race and gets the prize. A race has a prize attached to it. Whoever wins get the prize. I implore you to get prepared before running the race of marriage, so you get the crown eventually.
Lesson 1: Everyone believes that for you to be successful in a particular career, you need to go to school for it. But only a few believe that for you to be successful in marriage, you need to go to school for it. It’s no wonder that a little percentage of married people lead successful marriages.
Lesson 2: You don’t learn how to fight in the battle front, rather, you learn before hand, otherwise, you’ll be killed. You don’t learn how to run a race while in it, you learn before hand.
Lesson 3: Jesus is the greatest coach. He knows the necessary ingredients that will help you succeed.
New birth is fundamental to accessing every inheritance that Christ offers mankind. Until a man is born again, he can’t see, experience nor taste the wonders of the kingdom of God. Ask Jesus to come into your life, and he will happily do it
“Look! I stand at the door and knock. If you hear my voice and open the door, I will come in, and we will share a meal together as friends.” Rev 3:20
Remember, you can’t run any race in life alone. You need him. Since I’ve been part and parcel of Christ, I’ve never had a regret been with him. I am yet to have one in CHRIST. it has been a sweet adventure. Amazing life! Trust me. It’s very simple. please say this prayer of faith: Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Now I know I am born again!