It’s been a while since I last posted. Uhh! I will do my best to stay consistent.
How are we all doing? 😀
You see, this “Women on the cutting edge” topic is one that has been lingering on my mind for months now. it’s all about the study of some women of the bible (Rebekah, Jael, Deborah, Abigail, Sarah, Moses’s mother, Esther, Ruth, Tamar, Samaritan Woman, Concubine of Judges 19, Mary, Elizabeth and Eve) Though they are long gone, their stories are still relevant today… Their flaws and strengths are worth taking note of. Out of my quest for wanting to know what made them women on the cutting edge and also for those that couldn’t make their mark, what stopped them, I did a study on them. Therefore, I will delight myself in sharing with you what I learnt from the study. And since they are a lot, I will do a series on them instead of compressing them into one blogpost.
How do you define a woman on the cutting edge?
By the end of this series, I know without a doubt that you will be able to come up with a tangible definition 😀
Let’s get to business…
My first woman is REBEKAH
Rebekah’s story of how she got hooked up with Isaac is really fascinating.
The bible tells us that when Abraham was very old, he summoned his servant, Eliezar and told him to swear that he wouldn’t let his son, Isaac, get married to any of the Canaanite women, rather, he would go to his hometown and look for a wife for Isaac there.
And for a second I wondered why Abraham wouldn’t let Isaac find a wife from among the Canaanite women.. So I realized that Isaac was the one with the promise
through Isaac your offspring will be reckoned.
And for him to fulfill destiny, he must first of all marry right..
So Eliezar swore and went to Abraham’s hometown with camels carrying gifts for the chosen bride and her family. On getting there, Eliezar made a prayer
“Please give me success today, and show unfailing love to my master, Abraham. 13 See, I am standing here beside this spring, and the young women of the town are coming out to draw water. 14 This is my request. I will ask one of them, ‘Please give me a drink from your jug.’ If she says, ‘Yes, have a drink, and I will water your camels, too!’—let her be the one you have selected as Isaac’s wife. This is how I will know that you have shown unfailing love to my master.”
While he was still saying the prayer, Rebekah showed up with a jug on her shoulder. Eliezar approached her and asked for some water. She obliged and also took it upon herself to water his camels.
She passed the test unknowing to her.
Rebekah fulfilled the conditions
For one second I thought, assuming she didn’t know how to do this, it would have been impossible for her. Assuming she was a lazy woman……Your guess is as good as mine… Because you can’t give what you don’t have. So She was already prepared and when the opportunity came, she was able to deliver and eventually became the wife of Isaac, the man with the promise.
What a great privilege!!!
Rebekah’s story teaches me that PREPARATION IS KEY
There are times when I fail to properly prepare, and the end result has always been the same… Poor performance
Opprotunity knocks only once. You never know if you will get another opportunity. So prepare now!
The woman who aims to become a best selling author, what manuscript is she currently writing?
The woman who yearns to become a remarkable Chef… In what catering school is she presently enrolled?
The woman who desires to get married in the next 3 days, 2 months, 2 years, 7 years or even 10 years.. Does she know how to cook? Is she developing herself to become an asset to whomever God will bring her way, or is she whining in a corner asking God to send her a wealthy man as husband that would rescue her from her miseries?
For the time has come for the marriage of the Lamb, and his BRIDE has PREPARED herself.
When it comes to marriage, preparation is key. Rev 19:7 says, for the bride has prepared herself. Singlehood is the time for preparation, because you don’t learn how to use a sword on the battlefield you learn beforehand, otherwise, you would be a victim.
You don’t prepare in marriage, you prepare for marriage
In my single state, I have been able to find part of my purpose, and as the days go by, it becomes clearer.
Why is finding your assignment important as a single lady? It is because your purpose helps you as a lady to choose whom to be a helper to. It defines the kind of man you can and cannot marry.
As a single, I am learning how to be domesticated: Improving my culinary skills, learning how to manage a home and groom kids from people who are married.
I have also done very well by reading books and listening to videos on relationships. And from these resources, I have been able to gain some relevant knowledge on the differences of the two genders.. Because when you understand why a man behaves the way he does, it would automatically reduce or eliminate tension in your relationships with the opposite sex. Yeah!
Proverbs 24 says, through wisdom a house is built.. Knowledge is good, understanding is better but wisdom, the application of the understood knowledge is best.
I am also using my single state to cultivate character. For instance, if you as a person, gets angry so easily and you know you can destroy or pounce on anything you see when you are not in the right mood.. It is only reasonable that you deal with it first before you make a lifetime commitment with someone. Because that anger has the potential of destroying your home. So work on it!
It’s better to live in the roof top alone than in a beautiful home with a quarrelsome wife
The parable of the ten virgins explains this so profoundly. The similar attribute amongst the women was that they were virgins. And the distinguishing factor between them was that five were wise and the other five were foolish.
And what was the criterion for this distinguishing factor? It was the state of their preparedness.
The five wise virgins were called so because they prepared before hand… They knew what to do.. They carried extra oil just incase something unexpected happened
But the other ones, were called FOOLISH, because they lacked preparation. They were so myopic to realize that they might need extra oil for their lamp incase something goes wrong.
And in the end, the five foolish virgins lost the opportunity. Why? They were unprepared.
10 “But while they were gone to buy oil, the bridegroom came. Then those who were ready went in with him to the marriage feast, and the door was locked. 11 Later, when the other five bridesmaids returned, they stood outside, calling, ‘Lord! Lord! Open the door for us!’
12 “But he called back, ‘Believe me, I don’t know you!’
13 “So you, too, must keep watch! For you do not know the day or hour of my return.
You must be prepared because you do not know when an opportunity will come your way.
As you lay your bed, so you will lie on it…..
Develop yourself to be an asset. Increase your personal value, so that when HE comes and you eventually get married, 2, 3,10 or 20 years down the line, he would rise up and say…. “There are many virtuous women in the world, but you surpass them all” This is what the Proverbs 31 woman’s husband said to her..
Why? Because she has been a tremendous blessing to his life… An addition, since she came into his life
Prov 31:23 says
Her husband is well known at the city gates, where he sits with the other civic leaders.
This sounds really good… Doesn’t it? He might not be known because of his role in the society, but it could probably be because of the impact and contribution of his wife to the society. The bible says, when she speaks, she has something worthwhile to say. The proverbs 31 woman is described as a business woman and a great homemaker. She is the template of a woman who makes compelling positive impact in her area of influence… And because of this she is known and as a result, her husband is known, because when they see him, they say “this is the man that married that powerful woman”
In other words, her impact has not only made her popular, but her husband too.
When I listen to some great women, I am always curious to know the men in their lives. I always want to know the lucky men that married this power thinking women.
Be that kind of woman! Be deep! Don’t be shallow. Exercise your mind to stay sharp.. Develop yourself.
President Obama had this to say about his wife:
Most people who meet my wife quickly conclude that she is remarkable. They are right about this. She is smart, funny and thoroughly charming. Often, after hearing her speak at some function or working with her on a project, people will approach me and say something to the effect of, you know, I think the world of you, Barack, but your wife, wow!
I seriously pray that people will approach “my husband” someday with similar statements 😉
Be an asset!!!!