Women on the Cutting Edge: CHARACTER


Hello to you,

In this post I wrote  about the story of Esther and lessons to draw from, but before you begin reading, I want you to know that there is a GOODNEWS at the tail end of this post. Be sure to check it out😊

Gold is a substance that’s is scarce as hen’s teeth. This is one of the many reasons why it’s valuable. In actual fact, nobody values anything that’s common or gotten on a platter of gold. For something to be valuable it must show another quality that’s different from the usual quality. And this is why I love the story of Esther .. It explains the above thought process so explicitly. 
Character made Esther stand out. Queen Vashti lost her throne to Esther because she lacked the appropriate ingredient that could sustain her on the throne. Agreed, beauty took her to the throne, but she needed something far deeper than beauty to sustain her on the throne; which is virtue or character. Unfortunately, she lacked it. 





Esther, fortunately for her, had both beauty and character and was able to get there, because the most expensive commodity a woman can have is character. Any woman can be beautiful, just give her some money. She knows what to do with it that would transform her look… There are plastic surgeons out there that have transformed the physical looks of individuals, because the individuals said they didn’t like their nose or any part of their body. So appearance and beauty can be transformed with money, but money can’t buy character; it can’t buy virtue. You’ve probably seen some wealthy men or men with great reputation marry some supposedly ugly women. And you wonder why… The reason is because there’s something that they saw in this supposedly ugly woman that they didn’t find in the so called “beautiful women” 

Character is everything. If you try to pretend to be calm and what not, It will show someday when pressure is put on you. Because pressure reveals your true content. 

For instance, if I were to exert pressure on a roach or cockroach, it won’t bring out blood because it has no blood on the inside, what will come out is only fluid. In the same vein, if you are a person who has a terrible temper and you try to hide it instead of dealing with it, when pressure is exerted on you or when someone gets on your last nerve, that bad temper will surely be revealed because you have that on the inside. 

When a thief is caught, you hear them say, ” I was frustrated, that’s why.” no, it’s not because they were frustrated, but it’s because they had some element of stealing in them. At that point of frustration, if that individual was someone who is well brought up; someone whose parents imbibed in him great values that doesn’t support stealing, he would uphold the values at that point in time. At that period, his true character will be revealed. His values will become clear. A boy who steals pens or pencils in his class, might end up stealing from a bank, if that trait is not curtailed. 
Olakunle Soriyan Says

At your HIGHEST frustration, what you DO is who you ARE. When PRESSURE is exerted on a thing, its true content is revealed. ‪#‎TruthForToday‬

Let me digress a little…

Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am being tempted by God”; for God cannot be tempted by evil, and He Himself does not tempt anyone. But each one is tempted when he is carried away and enticed by his own lust

It also explains why EVE fell.. 

When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. 

In a nutshell, the devil has nothing on you, really! Because you cannot be tempted by something that you aren’t already attracted to. 
To have a character that’s worth emulating, deliberate and conscious steps must be taken.. Don’t hide your character, deal with it, because bad character is like a beautiful egg that’s bringing out a poignant smell. The smell hides the beauty of the egg. All people see or perceive is the smell, the beauty becomes irrelevant. 

Prov 11:22
Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful woman who lacks discretion.

Don’t get me wrong, your outward appearance matters a great deal and you should make sure that you put it together. But don’t leave the inner man behind, because it’s the sustenance of your beauty. So there must be a balance. In life, if you take care of your outward appearance, showering twice a day, cleaning your teeth, wearing clean clothes and spraying cologne on them, it would all be totally meaningless if you do eat unhealthy foods and eventually have heart disease and what not. In other words, the inward should be taken care of as well. 

3Your adornment must not be merely external– braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; 4but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.

Esther was one lady to reckon with. She was loved amongst the other virgin ladies by not only the king, but everyone who saw her, the bible states. 

They were all beautiful, all virgins, but character made Esther stand out. 

There was a decree during that period that the king was looking for a wife that whatever clothing or jewelery the ladies want to see the king with, they should be given, but Esther was one different lady who asked for nothing except what the administrator, Hegai the eunuch, suggested.

She was indeed a wise woman seeing that Hegai was a man who had stayed with the the king for long and it’s only normal to think that he must have studied the likes and dislikes of the king. Therefore, him giving Esther advice on what to wear is reasonable. Esther was teachable. She accepted the advice of Hegai. Unlike most girls who would see this as an opportunity to acquire exorbitant things 

a) A woman of character smells good.. She’s attractive. People stand in awe of her. They see her as one worthy of emulation. In the midst of her equals, she’s talked about. In the midst of the elders, she’s wished to be their own child. In the midst of men, she’s wanted. 

b) Be teachable

c) Try as much as possible to curtail your excesses, because a bad character can, in one second, destroy a reputation that took years to build

d)Let there be a balance between your outward appearance and your inner man. In fact, take care of your inner man more. 


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